Ah yes, the slow sets.
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Topic: Ah yes, the slow sets.
Posted By: flumphert
Subject: Ah yes, the slow sets.
Date Posted: 23-November-2006 at 15:50
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Well being a bloke and going to the Grove only with blokes it was essential that you ended up with a good looking girl during the slow sets. If she turned out to be a bit rough then you were guaranteed to get slaughtered by your friends over it. And if you ended up with no one that was even worse. It was almost like having the plague. Watching all your mates shifting chicks while your sitting on the ice cold plastic chairs wondering where your life went so terribly wrong.
Was this the same for the girlies out there? |
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Posted By: irish_mammy
Date Posted: 23-November-2006 at 16:03
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Flumphy It was exactly the same for the girls. ------------- Lesley 25th June - 25th July. Get organising my nights out. Child can stay in the car. Grove 1980-1984 |
Posted By: Esthalon
Date Posted: 23-November-2006 at 17:19
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I don't think it was so bad for us....for starters, we didn't have to do the asking. We could always go for a smoke or to the loo thereby removing ourselves from the possibility of even being asked, and we had the option to say no...... So if your friends were all going with someone and you didn't want to be a wallflower you just did a Houdini ------------- Smoke me a kipper I'll be back for Breakfast! |
Posted By: Vinyl Junkie
Date Posted: 23-November-2006 at 20:44
I'd just say to meself, 'ah sod it' and go and browse through Cecil's singles collection. Got awfully familiar with them after a while... ------------- TPFKAB (The Poster Formerly Known As Brunswick). |
flumphert wrote:Posted By: finno
Date Posted: 23-November-2006 at 22:31
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I seem to recall that there was a group of lads and lassies hung out together so you weren't always left on ones own. But you had to be careful not to get in the way of young lust at times!
------------- A man must have a code |
Posted By: Blondie
Date Posted: 24-November-2006 at 08:06
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I agree with Esthalon think it was much easier for us girls. My memory is lads outnumbering girls 2 to 1 anyway so better odds for us ------------- Blondie I generally avoid temptation unless I can't resist it ! |
Posted By: Bluebell
Date Posted: 24-November-2006 at 13:44
I can remember running to the door when the slow sets came on just in case you got asked to dance by someone you didn't want to dance with...... And then hanging around near the guys that you were "praying" would ask you to dance.....sometimes we got lucky, but most times 
------------- You are what you wanna be....age doesn't matter |
Posted By: Mins
Date Posted: 26-November-2006 at 18:24
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Starter Chat Up lines during Slow Sets....
What were the most popular or the most idiotic I wonder???? Had to have been..... (A) " Do you come here often ? ". Oh dear....that was quite sad AND definitely muttered the most..... followed by ( if they couldnīt guess by your clothes )... (B) " What are ye into ? ".... then the dreaded.....( if the guy was a creature, cyclops etc ) (C) " want to head outside ? "....... of course if he was a "bang" then you were made up as you were pulled by the hand, hopefully through a gang of female pals looking on with that " lucky cow " glance and you trying to appear to being dragged against your will !!! ....to a vacant space in the infamous Compound.... Must be better one liners..... Canīt think of them right now....possibly due to the fact my head is filled with kids homework, laundry and dogs hassling to head out on their constitutional.... B. Noches, Mins |
Posted By: crusty
Date Posted: 26-November-2006 at 22:13
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I think it was definitely more difficult being the boy on these occassions. I mean, we were the ones supposed to do the asking, we had to gather the balls up to approach you, single you out in front of all your friends and then inevitably face rejection. It took me a while to remember to check my self-respect in at the cloakroom with my jacket at the start of the night and collect it at 1am, in order to have any kind of success during the slow sets... But then I discovered Autumn Gold, Fosters, Budweiser... This changed things dramatically - who cares if she says no, just move on and ask the next one - the chances were, you're bound to come across somebody else who's just looking for a bit of a mooch and doesn't mind being groped for the rest of the evening. But then there were the days when the blue moons were shining and a girl would approach you - "Will you dance with me mate?". This was music to my ears. You could just sit back and let her worry about coming up with all the cheesy one-liners! Those were the days... ------------- I'm not even supposed to be here today! |
Posted By: Rolo
Date Posted: 27-November-2006 at 11:45
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This was the norm rather than the exception back in '80/82 Crusty. |
Posted By: rahgirl
Date Posted: 27-November-2006 at 17:53
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"I mean, we were the ones supposed to do the asking, we had to gather the balls up to approach you, single you out in front of all your friends and then inevitably face rejection. It took me a while to remember to check my self-respect in at the cloakroom with my jacket at the start of the night and collect it at 1am, in order to have any kind of success during the slow sets... " Crusty, from what I can recall, you never had that much of a problem with getting attention or dances from girls!!!!!! ------------- What doesn't kill you, definitely makes you stronger!!!! |
Posted By: Floyd
Date Posted: 27-November-2006 at 20:52
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Whahayyy!!! Way to go,Crust... ------------- There are three kinds of people in the world,those who are able to count,and those who can't... |
Posted By: eejit91
Date Posted: 28-November-2006 at 00:32
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I had me dance card!!! don't know about the rest of ya!!!! ------------- "Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better." |
Posted By: finno
Date Posted: 28-November-2006 at 12:12
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But what was on the dance card?
------------- A man must have a code |
Posted By: Noodles
Date Posted: 28-November-2006 at 12:19
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Instructions on how to do the " Hokey Cokey " " You put your left leg in, your left leg out, in out,in out, shake it all about........ " Noodles. |
Posted By: eejit91
Date Posted: 28-November-2006 at 13:37
Finno lists and lists of victims......scratched them off as I moved along.... ------------- "Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better." |
Posted By: Bluebell
Date Posted: 28-November-2006 at 13:45
 ....very good Teresa, I vote that "post of the week"------------- You are what you wanna be....age doesn't matter |
Posted By: Rolo
Date Posted: 28-November-2006 at 13:48
| Yeah Bluebell, but you think she's joking, dont'cha ? |
Posted By: Blondie
Date Posted: 28-November-2006 at 15:03
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Hey Teresa we used to call them "victims" too Still do actually !!!! ------------- Blondie I generally avoid temptation unless I can't resist it ! |
Posted By: Bluebell
Date Posted: 28-November-2006 at 22:14
We should all tell our kids the do's and don't of asking someone to dance.....so they don't have to go through the same embarrassing moments that we went through.
------------- You are what you wanna be....age doesn't matter |
Posted By: finno
Date Posted: 28-November-2006 at 22:55
I hope there's a comma missing there rather than suggesting collusion on my part in drawing up the list of your victims! ------------- A man must have a code |
Posted By: eejit91
Date Posted: 28-November-2006 at 23:08
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Finno insert the comma if it makes it look better Ah here Bluebell never thought the slowsets were a bad time - loved them... sure if you got the dance it was all the better!!! part and parcel of growing up and playing the game! ------------- "Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better." |
Posted By: irish_mammy
Date Posted: 01-December-2006 at 06:51
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Ah bluebell, Where's the fun in that. When your teen comes home with that look on their face you can say truthfully " I know how that feels" and then go off and laugh at them!!! I think it's called payback for all the times they did to you what you did to your parents. ------------- Lesley 25th June - 25th July. Get organising my nights out. Child can stay in the car. Grove 1980-1984 |
Posted By: star
Date Posted: 22-December-2006 at 21:54
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Janey mack, Mad remembering this one.. as far as I can recall, the only lads I wanted to get asked up by were the cool lads in the alcove. And as far as i was concerned i was way out of their league (pathetic i know now), they were also a few years older than me. The gang i was with didn't hang around the alcove so i had to pluck up the courage and go sit there with my mate (who was dragged ) to get my face in their . I had no probs chatting to them which was lucky. I'm mostly not shy, but have my moments. When the slowsets went on (before i got the guts to hang out in the alcove) I used to leg it out into the hall way. Didn't want to get asked up again by some tiny guy. I always seemed to get asked up by really small lads and lads that seemed really young! and of course i got asked up by my fair share of freaky doods. Finally got hooked up with an alcove guy that i was interested in for ages, I was smitten.. ahhh those were the days, thought i was such a rock chic ------------- Never Again on a school night! Famous last words |
Posted By: Bluebell
Date Posted: 23-December-2006 at 12:00
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So Star what was the name of this "alcove guy" that you were so smitten with ?....he might be somewhere out here !!!!!!
------------- You are what you wanna be....age doesn't matter |
Posted By: muller
Date Posted: 05-January-2007 at 23:32
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heard Clifford T. Ward singing "Home Thoughts from Abroad" on the rdio this evening. Now there's a slow song that was truly a Grove classic for the smoochers B ------------- Life is for living |
Posted By: finno
Date Posted: 06-January-2007 at 09:07
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Sure was. Always reminds me of the grove
------------- A man must have a code |
Posted By: Floyd
Date Posted: 07-January-2007 at 00:43
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Loved Hazel O'Conor's 'Stay Now' -great saxophone solo at the end. You can't beat a bit of sax... ------------- There are three kinds of people in the world,those who are able to count,and those who can't... |
Posted By: Vinyl Junkie
Date Posted: 08-January-2007 at 20:21
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Yo Martin, Sorry for being a pedantic so-and-so, but isnt that song called "Will You"?? Cracking song alright... ------------- TPFKAB (The Poster Formerly Known As Brunswick). |
Posted By: eejit91
Date Posted: 08-January-2007 at 20:36
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You know when I went to the grove I am thinking they never played this but I love this song so much - The Guitar Man.....wish they did. I think it was a tad before my time. Home Thoughts from Abroad is such a classic still love that and of course - Our House!!! ------------- "Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better." |
Posted By: muller
Date Posted: 08-January-2007 at 22:06
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Pretty sure C played in my time. Even now, most of the songs that reverberate around in my head I know from the Grove and this is definitely one. A classic slow song. talking about slow songs always reminds me of Batchelors Walk the time that Ray and Barry are the disco and talk about walking back to their seats bent over. ------------- Life is for living |
Posted By: Bluebell
Date Posted: 14-January-2007 at 14:09
| Hey Muller love Batcherlors Walk one of the best programes RTE ever produced, did you see the christmas special ? Have the first series on DVD wonder if they'll ever release the second series? |
Posted By: Black Russian
Date Posted: 15-January-2007 at 15:44
What you want that crap released on DVD No way!!! Never watched it so I can't really comment P |
Posted By: Bluebell
Date Posted: 15-January-2007 at 17:56
Pete.....Batcherlors Walk is great, really funny and some great story lines and great actors. You should give it a go.  |
Posted By: aislingsaul
Date Posted: 19-January-2007 at 15:03
| to be honest, girls also wanted to snog as many guys as they cd. howevr i had a fella. so i only wnted 2 song him |
Posted By: irish_mammy
Date Posted: 20-January-2007 at 01:58
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Always loved that song Clifford T Ward but reminds me of a boyfriend who cheated on me. Anyway thats another story and maybe another posting. Funny how the little guys never asked up little girls, only girls taller than themselves!!!! ------------- Lesley 25th June - 25th July. Get organising my nights out. Child can stay in the car. Grove 1980-1984 |
Posted By: Floyd
Date Posted: 22-January-2007 at 00:49
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Father and Son...great song. Bought Tea for the Tillerman yesterday...at last replacing my old vinyl copy.Forgot how good an album that was. Sad Lisa-really is a sad song,full of emotion. ------------- There are three kinds of people in the world,those who are able to count,and those who can't... |
Posted By: eejit91
Date Posted: 22-January-2007 at 03:23
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Cat Stevens, one of the all time greatest! Father and Son another one of my favorites. Having said that if your a fan there are many other great songs from him. Peace Train is another one to mention. ------------- "Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better." |
Posted By: Bluebell
Date Posted: 22-January-2007 at 12:37
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Used to love the song Father and Son ....until.....Ronan Keating brought it out, now I just hate it.
------------- You are what you wanna be....age doesn't matter |
Posted By: Rolo
Date Posted: 22-January-2007 at 12:38
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Yeah Bluebell, that makes sense. Totally agree. BTW, have you ever heard the mess he made of Fairytale of New York. Make ya puke. |
Posted By: star
Date Posted: 27-January-2007 at 20:10
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He's in the states now as far as I know, it went a bit awkward in the end with us.. kind of like Romeo & Juliette! My folks didn't approve of him cos he was a "Bum" with long hair ( i told them they were snobs and had huge rows with them over that) I was only around 16 . I reckon it was more likely that they were afraid I was getting too serious about him cos they could see how much time we were spending together and he was about 2 years older than me. They more or less ordered me to break up with him or else no more Grove or going anywhere. It was sh*t cos I really liked him, we kept it going as long as we could but then we ended up breaking up anyway cos it was just so much grief for us. He was cool though and he probably was the major influence that helped make Led Zep my favourite band. We never really played any other music when we were together If he is out there somewhere... Thanks U, I had a great time with you and you made my life very Rock N' Roll for a few months ------------- Never Again on a school night! Famous last words |
Posted By: Floyd
Date Posted: 28-January-2007 at 22:57
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No problem,Star...glad I could help... Ha ha! Only joking... Remember the 'alcove' just off the alcove? It was a little corridor,except it wasn't long enough to be a corrider.It was between the aclove and the end of the long corrider,just where the Kit Kats were sold for a while. It was about 4ft by 4ft,the light never worked and was just perfect for that intimate moment! God,we had no scruples then... ------------- There are three kinds of people in the world,those who are able to count,and those who can't... |
Posted By: Esthalon
Date Posted: 30-January-2007 at 12:41
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I remember it well....I spent Midnight one New Years Eve in there....I'll say no more! ------------- Smoke me a kipper I'll be back for Breakfast! |
Posted By: Mins
Date Posted: 30-January-2007 at 16:50
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Any more takers who experienced moments of intimacy in the 4X4...
I donīt remember that at all ???? Crazy. Minnie |
Posted By: Esthalon
Date Posted: 30-January-2007 at 16:54
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You can just see the entrance to it here....or should I say Exit!
------------- Smoke me a kipper I'll be back for Breakfast! |
Posted By: Floyd
Date Posted: 30-January-2007 at 23:22
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There used to be scrambles for that spot...if there was no-one in it you would grab your other half and say 'Quick-it's free!' Or if it wasn't held up by young lovers then it's purpose was for someones friend to 'sort out' someone else's friend and solve their problems. Or often a place where people got dumped! (That never happened to me...!) ------------- There are three kinds of people in the world,those who are able to count,and those who can't... |
Posted By: star
Date Posted: 01-February-2007 at 00:09
------------- Never Again on a school night! Famous last words |
Posted By: Floyd
Date Posted: 01-February-2007 at 19:57
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Do you remember during the slow sets,the last song would finish,and if the dance (plus whatever went along with the dance) was going well,you'd just keep on dancing? Right through Whole lotta Rosie or something,just keep waltzing slowly around and around,people banging into you but you just couldn't let go???
Mad... ------------- There are three kinds of people in the world,those who are able to count,and those who can't... |
Posted By: rosie
Date Posted: 01-February-2007 at 19:59
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Mad but good as well sign of a good night that ------------- life is for living so go out and grab it by the throat |
Posted By: Floyd
Date Posted: 10-February-2007 at 12:11
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What I loved about the slow sets was if you did have the courage to ask up someone,and she said yes,and it was going well (as in chat was flowing etc),well if her hands moved from a 'back off' position on your shoulders to down around your waist,and she didn't seem blotto,then that was good.If those hands pulled you towards her slightly then that was better. After that,it was your move. (I was asked one night 'What's taking you so long?'-must've been a Manor Houser!) What wasn't so good was 'OK thanks' after the first song. (NEVER happened to me,of course...hee hee!) Or I hated it when I heard ';Hey-I went to school with your sister' or 'I used to go out with your friend'. Oh oh... Of course the lady's choice was great-that really put the contest going among the lads... ------------- There are three kinds of people in the world,those who are able to count,and those who can't... |
Posted By: Vinyl Junkie
Date Posted: 10-February-2007 at 17:15
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Bloody ladies choice, never got asked up to dance and I knew very little who did Maybe the girls were just shy!??? (thats what I told myself anyway!) ------------- TPFKAB (The Poster Formerly Known As Brunswick). |
Posted By: eejit91
Date Posted: 12-February-2007 at 15:00
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I don't think I ever asked a guy up to dance!... was never into that and still if I was back there I think I would feel the same. Fear of rejection I guess. ------------- "Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better." |
Posted By: eejit91
Date Posted: 12-February-2007 at 15:01
what I want to know is did you take the bait? ------------- "Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better." |
Posted By: Floyd
Date Posted: 12-February-2007 at 19:14
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Oh God yes...learned a thing or two that night... ------------- There are three kinds of people in the world,those who are able to count,and those who can't... |
Posted By: eejit91
Date Posted: 12-February-2007 at 19:57
And now you are a man of many talents! right ------------- "Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better." |
Posted By: Mins
Date Posted: 12-February-2007 at 23:37
Ahem...excuse me..just WHAT is that supposed to mean Mr Floyd ?????? Please do elaborate..I am all ears......... Mins the Manor Houser |
Posted By: finno
Date Posted: 15-February-2007 at 09:26
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Sounds like "Summer the First Time" - Bobby Goldsboro! ------------- A man must have a code |
Posted By: Floyd
Date Posted: 15-February-2007 at 18:39
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From ear to ear...that's all I can say... ------------- There are three kinds of people in the world,those who are able to count,and those who can't... |
Posted By: Stevie
Date Posted: 21-February-2007 at 00:41
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Muller LOVED "Home thoughts from abroad "too, I even bought tickets to see Clifford T. Ward play at The Stadium but then the concert was cancelled, bombings I think, appartantly he said he "never played in war zones" never forgave him for that Rolo, Ronan Keating referred to as "Boyzone's Da" by Rodge & Podge has totaly destroyed many a good song... Stevie
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Posted By: irish_mammy
Date Posted: 21-February-2007 at 04:30
Funny how a lot of bands where like that back then. When the money dries up they play everywhere. Here in Perth (the most isolated city in the world) we have had so many bands come here over the last year. Money runs out, they play everywhere. Liked Clifford T. Ward. Agree with you, he's an idiot for that. ------------- Lesley 25th June - 25th July. Get organising my nights out. Child can stay in the car. Grove 1980-1984 |
Posted By: irish_mammy
Date Posted: 26-February-2007 at 08:53
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Not sure if I asked anyone to dance for ladies choice (unless it was a boyfriend) tho I'm sure my friends will remind me of all you lousers who said no to me!!!! ------------- Lesley 25th June - 25th July. Get organising my nights out. Child can stay in the car. Grove 1980-1984 |
Posted By: whippersnapper
Date Posted: 26-February-2007 at 08:58
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Did anyone else wear glasses? When I had a thick plastic pair (both lenses and plastic were thick!), I used leave them at home on Saturday evenings. Then, I'd spend the first part of the slow set desperately trying to squint round a darkened hall trying to spot the good looking girls. No wonder they all had time to come up with their excuses.... And trying to make sure to avoid Tonto with his long hair, eyeliner and nail varnish? ------------- I'm searching for that cash I should have saved for the crash |
Posted By: Rolo
Date Posted: 26-February-2007 at 13:54
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Yep 'Snapper, although reckon mine were a bit trendier than yours. Stopped wearing them when I was 16 around the time I started going. However, I am wearing them in the pic. on my Membership Card. |
Posted By: whippersnapper
Date Posted: 26-February-2007 at 14:50
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Anybody's were trendier than mine! I haven't even mentioned the sellotape holding them together.. I tried to stop wearing them meself, but being squeemish about my eyes the contacts were out, and I'm as blind as a bat so back on they went!
------------- I'm searching for that cash I should have saved for the crash |
Posted By: irish_mammy
Date Posted: 28-February-2007 at 02:14
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Don't think you would have needed glasses to see Tonto with all that gear on him.
------------- Lesley 25th June - 25th July. Get organising my nights out. Child can stay in the car. Grove 1980-1984 |